Just one little thing and one big thing

First off, if anyone actually reads this, they might notice that some of my posts are gone. That's because I'm changing things up a bit.

Now on to the big thing.
As a person who has tried marriage, being married and divorced and through hell all in 4 years, I'm pretty dead set on avoiding it.  How lucky am I that I have a guy who feels the exact same way as I do?!  Now you'd think that a guy who doesn't want to get married equals no committment?  Not this guy.  I am very confident that if things ever went south, I would be ok.  When my marriage ended, it was a flippin mess.

Now I'll admit that when I see weddings, like on TV and in movies, I get that sad feeling thinking that I'm never going to have that.  Yeah, the first wedding wasn't THAT.  But when I see people going through nasty divorces, and when I see that I have everything a marriage has except the piece of paper and a ceremony, it makes everything OK.

I see it too often where marriages end suddenly and unexpectedly.  In my first marriage, my (ex)husband was stupid and wanted everything in my name and we rented...so when the divorce was final he had the clothes on his back. Not my fault--I didn't even fight for anything.  I didn't even show up for my divorce.  Now when two people are married and have everything together, things get messy.  No matter what, someone gets screwed over.

If you're reading this and you're married, how sure are you, really, that your marriage is solid?  If it all came tumbling down tomorrow, do you have a plan?  I ask because marriage does not equal "today is how it will always be."  Now I know that there is the minute percentage out there who stay married forever and it's awesome, but not everyone can be a part of that percentage.